(Optional link to informative and amusing article on shredded and/or faded) is back in fashion for clothing? Some say fashion is an art-form and like art, it can say something about the current environment. If that is so, are people making some sort of commentary on the poor, starved, or homeless in our society by wearing shredded clothing?
Is this a new look? NO! Faded jeans and/or ripped trends were in and out between the 60’s and the 80’s. Back then it was supposed to be a non-verbal holdover from anti-establishment protests rather than the fashion statement it turned into later.
I can remember my younger brother getting a new pair of jeans, washing them with bleach to make them look stonewashed, and then cutting a slit in one of the knees to look hip. Our mom nearly had a cow when she saw what he had done to the jeans she just bought. My little brother was horrified when my mom took his jeans, put an iron-on patch over the cut knee, and made him wear the jeans to school that way. When he complained about how she ruined his jeans, mom informed us all that none of her children were to go anywhere looking like a torn-up rag doll. To which dad added if anyone was caught deliberately destroying good clothes, they would forfeit their allowance until he was repaid for the clothing item. (Not his exact words but definitely what he meant.) What other ways did dad kill our desire for current and future fashions? Since a few of our clothes were hand-me-downs, dad also made us wear belts to make sure any over-sized pants did not slip down, fall off, or show our underwear - as is also fashionable now. Cruel parents! Right!? (LOL- See a funny pants video here.) As you may have guessed from mom’s comment, “pre-owned” clothes with holes either got patched before next wearer or were repurposed by being: cut-off/hemmed for summer shorts for my brothers, torn apart for dad to use as shop rags, or given to my grandmother to use as quilt pieces.
Frankly, I think some of the clothes I see on the streets would be seen as embarrassing to a down on luck person who would not choose to wear anything that accentuates their situation. Even the most poverty-stricken would prefer not to go around with such big raggedy holes in their clothing because they would be more undressed than covered. People with limited incomes know clothes are meant to protect you from sun or cold. After all, how do holes help ward off nature’s harsh environment?
So why do the rich, and those trying to imitate them or make an artsy statement, waste their money on these fashions? If they want to really make an important statement, they should donate the money to a charity rather than pay a designer for torn shreds. Instead of buying clothes that should be in the trash bin: feed the hungry, house the poor, or work to save the environment.
NOTE: Please excuse the excessive linking to dictionaries for terms and phrases in this post. I thought it might be necessary since some fashionable people may not be aware of the definitions.
Wait! Before we go making new laws or restrooms, do we already have a usable option as Uni-sex restroom in most public buildings? I believe they are often called Family restrooms and the sign on (or next to the door) shows a Male, Female, and a baby, child, or wheelchair. Has anyone ever seen a line outside of these non-discriminatory restrooms? No! So then these restrooms could possibly do double- duty as Uni-Sex. Well what do you know – the All Gender restroom issue was solved decades ago! Now people no longer need to think about spending money on new restrooms or debating gender discrimination. However, if someone feels the 3-person sign does not work, the building owners might choose to splurge for a new sign, if they are asked nicely.
All Gender (formerly known as the gender neutral term of Uni-Sex) restrooms are a useless follow-through of a non-requested concession for a minority as a random attempt at political correctness that may actually hurt the majority. Changing the signs (a cheap way to make changes) on restrooms to make them “all-inclusive” is not right because children and adults, who will be uncomfortable utilizing a restroom with a gender other than their own, may choose to “hold it in” rather than go to the restroom. This will result in various health problems. Sounds like the vocal minority may again be bullying the “afraid to speak-up” majority with this issue. Seems like the only people this idea helps are perverts, since they should be able to go to any restroom wherever and watch anyone whenever they want. Maybe the few people touting this have not thought of that …
Which side are you on? You may want to check these posts to see.
Both Sides In The Transgender Bathroom Battle Are Wrong – Traditional vs LGBT
Both Sides of the Topic: Transgender Bathroom Bills – Conservative vs. Liberal
A better option is to keep Male and Female separate mass restrooms as is and then designate a few single-user Uni-Sex restrooms. These would be for those undergoing medical procedures, or psychological issues, or those who are confused as to what they really are, and anyone uncomfortable going to a standard gender restroom. If the building already has enough restrooms, simply change one or two to the new designation with a sign. If the building does not have enough restrooms to designate a specialized restroom, then make a decision to either spend money to create a small one for All Gender purpose or forget about having a special restroom. Some fear having a specifically designated restroom may lead to bullying of the minority who would use it. Yet, that is also the argument others use for not forcing these same people to use the Male/Female gender restroom associated with their birth. Do we really believe that will happen? If anyone does, then we need to spend more time on teaching people how to respect each other rather than spending money of restrooms.
For the last few Sundays, my pastor has been talking about relationships and family. During one sermon, he noted the five things below that we learn from our family and shared Deuteronomy 6:7 with us.
1. What to do with feelings
2. How to handle conflict
3. How to handle loss (and losing)
4. What values matter most
5. How to develop good habits
|Child's Placemat Showing Good Table Manners|
I can recall a time when my dad went to help someone work on their house. Most of his children were there help by fetching items and otherwise staying out of the way. During the day, we were given lunch by the people whose house my dad was working on. We kids were politely asking please, saying thank you or your welcome during the meal, as well as yes sire and no mam throughout the day. On the way home, my dad said how proud he was of our good manners and that the home mentioned them too. It made us feel good that our mom had taught us how to behave in the home of others. She did this by practice at home and reinforcing the preferred behavior at family gatherings and events outside the home. For my mom, good manners were a true sign of respect for others.
Manners are not a generational issue; manners are a social issue. Recently I saw an example of generations at my local community center. In front of me in the sing-in line was a Dad and his teenaged child. The Dad signed in and to the receptionist he said “Basketball, please.” He was given a ball, he said “Thanks.” and went into the gym. Then his child signed-in, said simply “Basketball,” took the ball without saying anything else and walked into the gym. (Before anyone gets sexist and thinks “That is how teenage boys are…” the child was actually a girl.) For societal view, you may want to read Smart Company magazine’s Why Manners and Courtesy are Vital for Successful Sales, Businesses and Societies. For more of a business view, you may want to check out Is the Era of Incivility Going to Destroy American Business?
Now I will transition from manners and basketballs to the related topic of sportsmanship. I also remember when contests and sporting events had winners and losers. Now that only seems to exist in professional sports. Now, everyone gets a trophy for just showing up, so who was the winner? What does that teach children about handling loss and being a good sport? How do they learn to handle their emotions or manage themselves during conflict? If everyone is always a winner, then what happens when they do not get a scholarship or a promotion later in life?
I know there are still parents out there teaching their kids to say thanks and please. I have seen and heard them tell their children “What do you say?” I have also heard parents say (and read on Facebook) how proud they were when someone complemented their children on their good behavior or excellent manners. Would the world be a nicer place to live if we all could learn to practice good manners? I think YES! Teach children manners at home so they have that as a habit and you may not have to remind them to do so outside the home. Teach children how to handle losing and you may not experience whining when they do not get all that they desire later on.
Even if you may not share my thoughts on manners (and if you have good eyesight), you may want to check out this blog post, Five Reasons Manners are Important with quotes from Clarence Thomas and Emily Post. You may also want to visit this home skills website and read How You Benefit from Proper Etiquette to see why manners are important for every generation.
Is it just me or do you see that people are becoming more and more rude with every generation? Why is this? And how can we stop it? Is it the fault of the ME generation that was deemed selfish? Or is the problem really with X, Y, and Z (aka new GenME)? Have we raised (or are raising) children that think only of themselves? Are manners and thoughtfulness things of the past?
I think the rudeness is part of incivility trend that has been crawling across the country for several years. In the past, Americans respected government offices, such as president, and would never be disrespectful of the person holding the office even if they had lost trust in the individual. The attacks on the new president when he speaks are not so different from those on other presidents when they were new to the office. Trump (Republican) Obama (Democrat), Bush (Rep), and Clinton (Dem) were also disrespected by either the media or select politicians claiming to represent the citizens. As you can see by the list, we show our discontent with a presidential party and their politics by selecting a different one the next time.
Discontent is no excuse for rudeness and disrespect! How can anyone be rude to the president and claim to represent the majority of citizens when they were elected based upon a majority vote? It is just an excuse; get over the politics of the election and give the new guy a chance to do his job. (This is basically what we hear every time a new party takes office.) Stop being rude and start respecting the office! Show respect until the new person actually does something to destroy our trust. Those in power that are not supportive and overly apologetic (often without getting all the information) are showing disrespect for the office of president and for the citizens (most likely their own constituents) that voted for that president.
I am putting politics aside now and explaining that I do not think we can blame any particular generation for the rudeness (aka era of incivility). We need to lead by example and everyone must teach their children their own personal values and acceptable behaviors. Plus, we all have to take responsibility for allowing everyone else to be rude and accepting incivility in the past if we want to change the future.
On that note, as we grow from children to adults, we learn the difference between a privilege and a right. The opportunity to protest is a privilege that not many other countries have. Freedom of speech is a right, doing it unlawfully or violently is not.
Below are a few books by psychologists, sociologists, and others on what rudeness/incivility is doing to hurt America.
- End of Discussion (2015) by Mary Katharine Ham and Guy Benson – how PC is hurting this country
- The Outrage Industry (2013) by Jeffrey M. Berry and Sarah Sobieraj – how media is confusing citizens
- Incivility (2010) by Phillip Smith, Timothy Phillips, Ryan King – how it is hurting communities
For books on how it is hurting business, read Is the Era of Incivility Goingto Destroy American Business?
This post is my opinion based on personal observation. I have a right to my opinion and I respect anyone’s right to have a different opinion. You are welcome to comment on this post if you do so respectively. Personal attacks, rude text, and profanity are NOT welcome here. Thanks for your understanding.
|Strawberry Fudge for Valentines Day|
with Heart Cookie Cutter
What do you think of when someone says fudge? I think of 1-inch sort-of-square creamy fudge pieces Mom and I cooked on the stovetop. It was a chocolate confection recipe made originally by melting marshmallows with butter, chocolate chips, and other ingredients. Then sometime after I was married the recipe became Fantasy Fudge and was updated to be made with the marshmallow crème in a jar. I still make this sometimes for Christmas. Of course, I may also think chocolate because ‘hot fudge” ice cream topping (which is my favorite sundae) is a deep rich chocolatey concoction. Please do not forget to put walnuts (most recipes call for this nut) or pecans (most southerners substitute this nut) in your chocolate fudge to make it more delicious!
Turns put the definition of fudge is “a soft candy made from sugar, butter, and milk or cream.” In the past few years I have been introduced to more flavors of fudge made using the microwave instead of conventional stove. The four that quickly come to mind are: peanut butter fudge, caramel fudge, peppermint fudge, and pistachio fudge (click to see recipes). I liked the flavor of the pistachio and coloring it green makes it a perfect treat for Christmas, Easter, or St. Patrick’s Day. The red and white peppermint is also a Christmas favorite.
This year, I discovered super-easy fudge recipe for all seasons and tastes! It is requires only 2 ingredients and 3 basic steps. All you have to do to make it is in the three steps below.
QUICK FUDGE RECIPE
- Melt a 12 OZ bag of white chocolate baking chips
- Mix in a 16 OZ container of cake frosting (any flavor you want)
- Put in refrigerator for at least an hour to set before cutting
FUDGE PREP TIPS:
- If you plan to put anything on top or inside the fudge, have it ready before making the fudge as topping will not stick once the fudge sets. Make it more special by adding nuts into the mix or on top. You may choose to put holiday or specialized sprinkles on top to make it more festive.
- Vary flavor and color options of frosting for different events. My first experience with this recipe was with strawberry frosting for Valentines. You can make it for any holiday simply by selecting a frosting in the desired shade or flavor! If you do not find the color you want, use a white frosting and add food color. If you cannot find the frosting flavor you desire (say almond for instance), use a basic white/vanilla frosting and add 1 teaspoon of preferred flavoring.
Below are a few more make-it-special ideas:
- You may want to experiment with seasonal fudge flavors (like pumpkin or mint) by using the special flavored baking chips made for a particular holiday (instead of the required white chocolate) and using a white variety of frosting, if you cannot find the desired flavor in frosting,
- If you are making it for a chocoholic, you can do a triple chocolate version using dark chocolate chips, chocolate frosting, and on top put mini-chocolate chips, chocolate sprinkles, or shaved candy bar bits!
- Taylor it to a special occasion by using a mini-cookie cutter to create shapes other than the standard 1-inch square.
- For a different holiday look, for a birthday party, or for bridal/baby showers; you may also desire to put the cut pieces into special mini-cupcake liners to make it look like fancy candies.
If you try a new flavor of the quick fudge or come up with a neat specialty idea you want to share, please put it in a comment on this blog post. Or if you have a different favorite fudge recipe you would like to share, please put a URL to link to that recipe in the comments for this blog post. Thanks!
Last year, I did a post of Pantone’s 2 colors of the year. This year, they chose a color nomenclature that has an “everything green” thought behind it, even though they mean a specific color of green. As a result - fashion, jewelry, and interior designers are going crazy using all sorts of versions of green or telling us different combinations of color to use with green.
If you want to be fashionable but don’t like want “fashion jewelry” because you prefer to wear the “real stuff.” You are in luck! There are a lot of gemstones that come in green to mix and match with this year’s color greenery. For example, you can get the two birthstones of emerald (higher priced precious stone) and peridot (low to high price due to quality and color semi-precious. These two should be the easy to find at your local jewelry or department store. If you want different green gemstones that others may not have, you can check the chart below for ideas and check on-line shopping sites for the colors that best fit your style or color season. These is by no means a complete list of green minerals, consider it a place to start for stones you may actually find, most are affordable but not all…
Transparent to Translucent Gems
Semi-translucent to Opaque Stones
Garnets: Demantoid + Tsavorite
Posted by Shirley Lee at 2/01/2017 07:37:00 PM
I have told the story of my Dadstarting to put lights on the house when I was small. The lights did not stop after his children were gone or when he moved to a new house. They actually seemed to be a bigger deal!
After their first four grown children were moved out of the house, my Dad wanted to build a house and move from town into the country next to his two brothers. So, not long after their first grandchild was born, my parents with their two youngest sons moved from their large 2-story 5-bedroom house into a medium-sized 3-bedroom in the country. My Dad and his two brothers put lights on all three houses working together over a weekend. Since the lights went all around the ease of their roofs, this process took more than the three of them. Each year, they had friends from work and their children helping out. The day of light hanging include free meals made by my Mom and aunts. Dad said these lights were for the joy of the grandchildren, many of which were born to households built around his.
In much later years, my parents moved to a smaller home further away and deeper into the country-life. May Dad continued putting lights around his house eaves, this time with the help of grown children and grandchildren. Not only did he do lights on the eaves, but they were wrapped around porch posts and rails. His little country home had an open rafter ceiling in the living room, so those rafters were wrapped in twinkle lights as well. Lights were now being enjoyed inside and out by his youngest grandchildren and great grandchildren as well.
My Dad did not have any elaborate displays, but he did ride along with others to see them. He was amazed at the engineering feats of people and organizations that made their lightsdance to music on radio stations or projected major displays on their buildings. I am pretty sure, though, that if my Dad was still here for this Christmas, he would be at some department store right now buying the new projector lights. However, I am not sure whether he would go for straight dotted lights, blinking ones, shapes, or color changing - maybe he would take a few great grandchildren with him and let them pick it out.
Seeing all the houses decked out in lights made me think about the lights my Dad put on his house and back to the first time he did so. To understand why this was a big deal to us kids, you have to know my Dad rarely bought things when they first came out. He always waited a couple years to make sure the manufacturers worked out the kinks in their products and that the prices would come down, plus he did not like to follow fly-by-might fads. We kids realized it was the start of the Christmas season when my Dad brought out his big ball of tangled lights and begin to unwind it to test that the string still worked and replaced any burnt out night-light style bulbs.
I remember when I was very young; a few of our neighbors had decorated the outside of their houses in the years preceding us. Dad took us down the street to look at them, where of course his many children oohed over houses that seemed to us as bright and colorful than a store display.
One year, my Dad did his annual untangle and test of the lights in the living room. I’m not sure when or how, but those large lights disappeared from the living room floor. Mom brought out the new twinkle lights, Dad did something to some of the bulbs, and then he and Mom wrapped them around our tree. When they finished, all the children were called in to watch as the lights were plugged in. We were so enraptured by the blinking lights that we did not notice Dad sneak out while Mom put ornaments on the tree. She let us children add tinsel icicles to the branches we could reach. While we were decorating, we heard noises outside the curtained picture window behind the tree and were a little concerned. Mom told us it was nothing to worry about. Sometime later, Dad comes in the front door and loudly proclaims “Kids, come and see!”
Outside we saw Dad had put our old-fashioned multi-color lights all around the big picture window! Mom had left one of the windows opened a crack behind the curtains and Dad had feed the plug end of the string through the window. Mom plugged in the lights and then came outside to join us. We kids were thrilled to have lights on our house too. We thought that big rectangle of bright lights was beautiful.
The first time my Dad put up lights outside was the year we switched the tree lights from the colored night-light style bulb to the twinkle lights. From that year on, I remember there being Christmas lights around that window as long as my parents lived in that house. For many years after, before the lights came out my brothers and I would ask, “When are you going to put up the lights Daddy?” When the ball of lights came out and began to be untangled, the boy’s question would change to “Daddy, can I help you put up the lights?” The first time they asked, Mom said “No, you might get electrocuted.” Dad pointed out that electrocution could not happen as the lights were not plugged in until they were all up. However, we were only allowed to watch him put them up until my older brothers were in their teens, and then they could help.
I only remember one year in which my Mom worried that my Dad would get electrocuted by putting up lights. That was because it was a very rainy night with lightning when he did it. He was going hunting that weekend and told Mom, “I need to get the lights up for the kids before I go.” It was pouring while he hung the string of lights, and they were plugged in as the porch light did not illuminate well enough in the pouring rain. We kids were not allowed to go outside and watch because of the rain, so Mom opened the curtain over the big picture window so we could see Dad working. (I think she was actually waiting to see if he got hit by lightning so she could quickly call an ambulance but she did not tell the children that.) When Dad was done, he came in drenched with a big beaming grin and an “I told you it would be okay.” directed at my Mom. It may seem like a little thing, but to the children Dad seemed like a big holiday hero that year.
Do you want to know what happened in much later years? Go to The Story Continues.
|Large Yard Nativity Scene|
I decided that the reason I see so many inflatable decoration in yards is probably because they are more convenient to put up instead of a multi-piece nativity. Convenient in not just putting them up but also in buying them, as I cannot remember the last time I saw a yard-size Nativity in a store. This of course made me wonder, do they make an inflatable Nativity I asked my spouse that question just before surfing Amazon to find out. I found that Amazon does have inflatable Nativities of all sorts! Not only that, but the next day my husband informed me that he saw an inflated nativity on the next street over on his way home from shopping! So if the only reason you do not have a nativity in your yard is convenience, then go on-line shopping for one before they are gone!
Last week, I was out driving again and passed several Churches on my way to and from my destination. Again I wondered, “Where are all the Christmas Nativities?” Remember when almost every Church displayed a large plastic Nativity in front of their building for the Christmas holidays? I didn’t see any last week. Then this week, I was pleasantly surprised, as I passed those same Churches, to see the Nativities had been set-up. I guess they waited until the first weekend of December when they could get volunteers to help set-up. A few Churches had the old fashioned light-up plastic versions, others had painted or silhouette Nativity versions in wood, one had a drive-through full-size scene using mannequins, and a few were advertising a date for a live Nativity or Christmas program. If your Church does not yet have a Nativity on the outside grounds or in their foyer, perhaps you can suggest one or donate a set…
But the angel said to them, “Do not be afraid; for behold, I bring you good news of great joy which will be for [f]all the people. “Glory to God in the highest, and on earth peace among men with whom He is well-pleased.” – Luke 2:10-14 KJV
Thank you to all the Churches and homes that highlight the true meaning for the season: Christ’s birth!